When it comes to loving ourselves, it can be difficult and we have all been there. When you do not love who you are it can be challenging, and I myself am still trying to fully be there.
I try to find one thing I like about myself a day, I try to avoid saying negative things about myself, even if the thought does come to my mind, I try to push it away. Try saying positive things about yourself, whether it just be in your mind, out loud or write it down; even if its just your hair you like today, say it.
Yes, we definitely all have those days where we hate everything about ourselves, and its okay — but just try to find that one thing you like and hold on to it.
People say its hard to full love someone else, if you cannot even love yourself. That is probably true, once you fully embrace the love you have for yourself and stop caring so much about what the world thinks of you, and just care about what YOU think of you the whole world becomes brighter. I remember days where I hated myself, and the world felt dark and I would take out a lot of anger on my boyfriend and that is horrible. We cannot take out our hate for ourselves on someone who truly loves us. Allow yourself to love and to be loved.
If you don’t love yourself, you will always be chasing after the people who don’t love you as well.
This is so true, and I can remember times in my past so clearly about this. I thought I “loved” who I was, but I was really pretending to love this image I thought my ex-boyfriend would like. He didn’t truly love me, but I chased him for so long because I didn’t love ME. The real ME.
Continue to work on yourself, for yourself, by yourself.
DO NOT, work on yourself to please someone else. DO NOT do it for someone else, and DO NOT allow people to influence negatively on who you are. You have to figure out yourself, by yourself; what you like or what you don’t like. Allow yourself to love things, and to enjoy things and live in the moment of those. Like I said in my last post, Happiness Is Not A Destination.. and you cannot expect to one day wake up and be in this “happy place in life” you have to be that. You have to love yourself and everyday will be that happy place.
Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.
Would you tell someone you love they are fat, stupid, ugly or anything like that? No. At least I hope not, so why on Earth do we tend to say these things to ourselves? First thing I need you to do on this journey to self love is to stop saying these mean things to yourself. Start saying, “Wow, I am beautiful because I am me” or something similar. You are beautiful because you are you, and you were made to look this way because that is YOU. We are different because we are special, and if we all looked the same we would be boring right? So love your differences, and stop comparing your life to others and start loving yours.